Importance of Prayer & Ruling of its Abandonment
Facing the Qiblah & Intention in the Prayer
Etiquettes of Walking to Prayer and its Description
Description of Prayer Continued
Description of Prayer Continued
Description of Prayer Continued
Pillars and Mandatory Acts of Prayer
Two Prostrations of Forgetfulness
Supererogatory (Voluntary) Prayers
Supererogatory (Voluntary) Prayers Continued
Times of Prohibition of (Supererogatory) Prayer
Congregational Prayers & Latecomers
Jumu'ah (Congregational Friday) Prayer
Introduction & Commercial and Selling
Selling of Primary & Secondary Commodities
Cancellation Options in Transactions
Cancellation Options Continued
Debt Transference & Guarantor-ship
Mortgaging & Security Deposits
Partnership & Companies Continued
Reviving Barren Lands & Per-Job Wage
Lost and Found Property & Foundlings
Prize Money & Deposits for Safekeeping
Explaining Verse "4:34" & Polygyny to Skeptics
[Defiance]
Subsection: If a woman fears contempt from her husband or abandonment, she may seek his pleasure by giving up some of her rights, as did Sawdah when she feared that the Messenger of Allah (SA) might divorce her. 1321
فَصْلٌ: وَإِنْ خَافَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ مِنْ زَوْجِهَا نُشُوْزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا، فَلاَ بَأْسَ أَنْ تَسْتَرْضِيَهُ بِإِسْقَاطِ بَعْضِ حُقُوْقِهَا، كَمَا فَعَلَتْ سَوْدَةُ حِيْنَ خَافَتْ أَنْ يُطَلِّقَهَا رَسُوْلُ اللهِ .
If the man fears contempt from his wife, he should exhort her, and if she continues to show contempt, he may abandon her in bed. If that does not deter her, he may hit her lightly. 1322
وَإِنْ خَافَ الرَّجُلُ نُشُوْزَ امْرَأَتِهِ، وَعَظَهَا، فَإِنْ أَظْهَرَتْ نُشُوْزًا، هَجَرَهَا فِيْ اْلمَضْجَعِ، فَإِنْ لَمْ يَرْدَعْهَا ذٰلِكَ، فَلَهُ أَنْ يَضْرِبَهَا ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ.
If discord is feared for them, the judge sends a trustworthy arbitrator from his (the husband’s) side and a trustworthy arbitrator from her (the
وَإِنْ خِيْفَ الشِّقَاقُ بَيْنَهُمَا، بَعَثَ اْلحَاكِمُ حَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهَا، مَأْمُوْنَيْنِ، يَجْمَعَانِ
1321. Concerning this, Allah says:
{And if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them…} (an-Nisâ’ 4: 128)
وَإِنِ امْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِن بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَن يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا
The terms of the settlement could be anything they both agree upon, whether it is the husband or the wife that gives up some rights. For example, Sawdah (RAH) proactively gave up her night to ‘Â’ishah because she felt that she had grown too old, and she only needed the company of the Prophet (SA), not the conjugal relations. Since he visited all of his wives on a daily basis and spent time with them, she did not need for him to spend the night with her.
1322. Allah says:
{…As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) hit them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance); for Allah is most High and Great (above you all).} (an-Nisâ’ 4: 34)
وَاللاَّتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا.
Please see appendix on hitting one’s wife.
wife’s) side. At their discretion, they shall unite or separate them. Whatever they decide shall be binding on the spouses. 1323
إِنْ رَأَيَا أو يُفَرِّقَانِ، فَمَا فَعَلاَ مِنْ ذٰلِكَ لَزِمَهُمَا.
1323. If they fail to mend their relationship, and the matter reaches the judge, arbitrators may be appointed for them. Allah says:. Allah says:
{And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Acquainted [with all things].} (an-Nisâ’ 4: 35)
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلَاحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا.
It is important that these arbitrators be wise people with some understanding of the fiqh of marriage and divorce. Today there is an obvious lack of these people in many families, so the spouses may agree on arbitration by someone from outside the families, such as the local imam if he is knowledgeable and pious.
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